Minus happiness what takes over you is sadness, boredom, bad mood, hatred n etc etc which blind your focus.
Most of us believe that happiness is when we have this and that, when we have someone else apart from us to make us happy and that without em then there is no happiness.
I love the idea of "positive thinking" but to be honest, most of the "think yourself positive" tactics just don't work on me all the time..I am very impatient at times and I just want things to happen "pap" but well the idea is "always stay positive"
As it turns out, studies have shown that the brain can be trained to be happy (ha!ha don't ask me for reference)
Here is part of what my 2016 woman can do to be happy!!
1. Let go!.Did you know that being ignored triggers the same area of the brain as physical pain or that looking at photos of your ex lights up the same areas associated with craving and addiction? In laymen's terms, stalking your ex's Facebook feed is not going to do much for your "moving on" process None of us want to admit that we "crave" or feel "addicted" to someone who no longer wants to be with us but, but it happens.
When something or someone we wanted so badly starts to slip away, some of us are able to respectfully release while others simply tighten their grip. The latter never works; begging doesn't look good on anyone. Bottom Line: If you’re not being welcomed into someone’s home, heart or office space (and respected and appreciated while there) it’s best to stop knocking and go back into your own happy space.
2. Change your tune.
A study performed by experts at The University of Missouri found that listening to uplifting music can bring about a sense of happiness,
Go for funny songs like Psy-daddy"etc..and don't dwell on Adele's "hello"-wink!
3. Assume the best in people. If my friend delayed or never respond to a text makes me feel so bad sometimes thinking that our friendship had ended for reasons that I was unaware of and I would never get a chance to explain myself. Many unnecessary panic attacks later, I realized that not every missed call means someone is avoiding you and that terse look from your co-worker? It's probably not because you didn't fill up the paper in the printer.
Yes, there are selfish and manipulative people out there but spending your life looking around for slights and insults is a one-way ticket to misery. Worse, it can make you flash your cray too often and cause problems!
Give a benefit of a doubt(kind of still working on this area myself)
4. Find the present in your history but make room for the new. There’s a good chance that whatever I'm facing now, I've faced in the past and things turned out just fine. My past shows me that nothing can break me ... except me. Unfortunately, going back into the past without a clear understanding as to why I'm going there (and what I'm looking for) can turn out the same way as mindlessly walking into my attic, opening every box and then looking at my watch, wondering where the hell the day went.
And guess what? Some people look at their watch and wonder the same thing about their entire life. Don't be that someone. Focus on the present. If I find myself wasting time on things I know I shouldn't be wasting time on, I distract myself and call the girlfriend who will make me laugh or remind me why I'm so lucky to have moved on.
5. Be proactive. The more I reach out, read up, and walk forward, the more aware of opportunities and possibilities I become. Before I know it, I'm living in a world of options and opportunity instead of simply choosing the "lesser of two evils" as so many feel they do. Don't believe me? Reach out to five people today and ask them all to get together to do something. Meet one for drinks, one to hit a museum, one for dinner and so on. Get back to me in two weeks.
6. There are not bears behind every tree. Maybe it’s because our ancestors had to worry about wild animals chasing them into their caves or some hot young thing in a bearskin skirt causing a ruckus in the tribe, but so many of us equate the unknown with something negative. Quite frankly, that’s a shame.
Not only does this way of thinking keep us from making changes and making introductions that could literally change the directions of our lives, but it also makes us boring to those around us. Whenever I find myself fearful of the future, I ask, "What if what I don’t know is how wonderful my life can actually be?"
I also rely on God's promise in Jeremiah 29:11..
7. Always remember to count on your blessings!!name them one by one..There's something about being grateful that just shifts your focus, even for a moment, and you realize how blessed u are..
8. Be a realist. Focus on acceptance, the more I understand just how incredibly simple life can be when we stop complicating everything with wishes and expectations.
Whether I'm dealing with a job loss, a break-up or something far more serious, accepting that I am where I am instead of focusing on where I was (or beating myself up for how long I stayed there) is the first step in moving me forward.
9. Don’t just seek positivity & perspective - bring it! They say that misery loves company but personally I like to be surrounded by smart, strong and happy people when I'm feeling low (and also when I'm not). I avoid those who are dismissive of my concerns and tell me "it could be worse" and "don't feel that way."
I seek people who lift my spirits, validate my feelings and remind me that I can change my situation. I love that my friends and I treat unhappiness as an infection to clear up, rather than a chronic, untreatable disease. There's freedom in accountability and knowing that we choose what we deal (and don’t deal) with.
10. Make better choices. This one is the big one. Being a victim allows you to be lazy. If it's not your fault, then you don’t have to do any work, right? FALSE. Just because someone else made bad choices that left you down for the count doesn’t mean that you have the greenlight to throw your own personal pity party. Also, when you choose to engage with someone after they show you who they are or you choose not to create boundaries or listen to your gut, that decision is on YOU.
At the end of the day, you are the person who is responsible for creating a space and a life you love, so if you’re constantly stressed out or feeling as though you’re not where you want to be, the change you seek can only be found in the choices you make..
Do the things you love..( like me i like taking pictures so much) more in 2016 than any other year...
work on your happiness first before anything..remember a happy soul always sees more and does more..
To continue....
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