So this is one of the topics that people avoid to talk mostly because they are afraid of how people will view them, am going to be bold and brave enough to speak my mind about this because a week or a month doesn't go by without a close person asking /talking or mentioning about it to me. And i know a lot of people or friends who go through this questions.
When are you getting married?
Every time you attend a friend's wedding, people will be looking at you and saying, "when is yours? i hope the next wedding is yours", then comparison starts of your age mates.
People tend to ask a little bit too much at times, and it is a almost unavoidable, i think in our African culture and views ,a girl is supposed to be married at least by age 25, regardless.
Earlier women got married at a very young age and by then things were different than the times we have now.
Girls now go to school, get degrees and tend to chase their dreams.
I believe every person has a different path in life, we cant all be the same and the there is no formula to be followed so as we can all be equal,
Everyone has their own choices in life.
Besides that getting a life partner is not always an easy task, not all people are lucky to get their perfect match, sometimes it involves making many mistakes before meeting the right one.
Of course it is every girl's dream to walk down the isle like princess Cinderella and build a family of her own, but sometimes it delays.
Earlier women got married at a very young age and by then things were different than the times we have now.
Girls now go to school, get degrees and tend to chase their dreams.
I believe every person has a different path in life, we cant all be the same and the there is no formula to be followed so as we can all be equal,
Everyone has their own choices in life.
Besides that getting a life partner is not always an easy task, not all people are lucky to get their perfect match, sometimes it involves making many mistakes before meeting the right one.
Of course it is every girl's dream to walk down the isle like princess Cinderella and build a family of her own, but sometimes it delays.
So i ask myself, do people really give a thought before asking this question?
Every person has a way of reacting and responding to this questions and the pressure it comes along with it, not everyone is strong enough to handle this. Some people get depressed with this, some just
decide to settle for less of what they really deserve.
decide to settle for less of what they really deserve.
Now the question is, will you just marry because of the pressure put around you?
why do people Marry?
Do i love you more than i know you?
here is a little advise,!
Being single in your late 20's is a blessing, it is not a curse.
You know yourself very well by now, you know what things you want in life, you have had quite a share of life experiences, you are mature and you can almost handle anything coming on your way. No one in this world knows what is best for you than YOURSELF, everyone has their own opinions but the choice remain yours.Embrace yourself and be happy with everything around you. I always follow my heart for what i think is best for me., at the end of the day it is you who is going to live that life and feel things. Be wise, Pray.
and
before you get married! If you thinking of getting Married, Make sure you spend as much as quality time as private time as possible getting to know the person you intending to spend the rest of your life with.there is no Rush! Dont do it to prove to people that finally you got someone to put a ring on it.
Do i love you more than i know you? ask yourself this question.
After the beautiful wedding and celebrations, You are still married, it is just u and him., dont get caught up in the moment, dont get married for all the wrong reasons and motivations,love him but get to know him, dont marry a stranger.
It is very painful to paint this picture, of who you think and believe this person is and then you discover they are nothing than what you assumed they were.
It is painful to go on that road trying to figure out who is that person you got married to,.
Most people want the ring but it is not like in football or any other game, when you get the ring
you win the championship and the game is over. but when you get married the game just starts. You dont wanna get to know the person that you married on the other side (inside the marriage )because that will be very painful for you.
So lay it transparent before the ring., take your time, no one wants to be caught off-guard.
Because the truth is you might fall or be caught up on the image, physical looks like how they look now, but natural disasters might come along, and change this people we love in this experience are you gonna still stick with them?
Hopefully you marry your best friend, someone you really know, someone who really you have a mutual understanding, someone who can not judge you on things that others will judge you, someone who you can talk to absolutely anything and they will understand you., someone who you will fight with and still wanna be with you.
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Do i love you more than i know you?
here is a little advise,!
Being single in your late 20's is a blessing, it is not a curse.
You know yourself very well by now, you know what things you want in life, you have had quite a share of life experiences, you are mature and you can almost handle anything coming on your way. No one in this world knows what is best for you than YOURSELF, everyone has their own opinions but the choice remain yours.Embrace yourself and be happy with everything around you. I always follow my heart for what i think is best for me., at the end of the day it is you who is going to live that life and feel things. Be wise, Pray.
and
before you get married! If you thinking of getting Married, Make sure you spend as much as quality time as private time as possible getting to know the person you intending to spend the rest of your life with.there is no Rush! Dont do it to prove to people that finally you got someone to put a ring on it.
Do i love you more than i know you? ask yourself this question.
After the beautiful wedding and celebrations, You are still married, it is just u and him., dont get caught up in the moment, dont get married for all the wrong reasons and motivations,love him but get to know him, dont marry a stranger.
It is very painful to paint this picture, of who you think and believe this person is and then you discover they are nothing than what you assumed they were.
It is painful to go on that road trying to figure out who is that person you got married to,.
Most people want the ring but it is not like in football or any other game, when you get the ring
you win the championship and the game is over. but when you get married the game just starts. You dont wanna get to know the person that you married on the other side (inside the marriage )because that will be very painful for you.
So lay it transparent before the ring., take your time, no one wants to be caught off-guard.
Because the truth is you might fall or be caught up on the image, physical looks like how they look now, but natural disasters might come along, and change this people we love in this experience are you gonna still stick with them?
Hopefully you marry your best friend, someone you really know, someone who really you have a mutual understanding, someone who can not judge you on things that others will judge you, someone who you can talk to absolutely anything and they will understand you., someone who you will fight with and still wanna be with you.
Sharing what Tyrese Gibson talked about this
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