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Hate a waste of EnerGY

It feels good to reconnect with some old friends. i like talking to my friends and i enjoy and respect the time that they put aside to have long chats and talk about many issues about life. 
So last week as i was talking to a certain friend of mine, she mentioned about an old friend who in some reasons they had an issue and apparently they discussed about it and forgave each other. what was shocking about the story is what the other friend told someone how she hates the friend i was talking to a point that she wishes she never saw her alive



I thought this was very serious for someone to hate another person in this way. i mean people do wrong things to us, they hurt us and it is normal to be angry, to be upset and sometimes hate.
But is hate a solution?like how does it feel living with a grudge , living with a burden of hate, what does it benefit you when the person you hate stops breathing?

Hate just takes too much energy and generally tends to be more frustrating for you as it's kind of wasted energy that you could put towards living life and making that person all the more miserable when they see how happy your are with your life. No one can tell you how to feel, but just realize that no one is worth the energy that goes into a lifelong, hateful grudge.

Does that make sense? NO???

Think about it again . You can hate someone but what exactly does that do for who you hate? 

NOTHING. 

But it EATS you up alive. 

Yes I suppose you can be angry enough to hate someone for a while...but if you choose to carry that hate with you like a ball and chain you are the only one who will suffer for it. 
What's best is to analyze your feelings, learn from the experience and move forward with it. 
With a lot of life experience you will realize you can't carry all those toxic emotions around with you. They will kill you. 
So just learn, be a little wiser for the experience and remember this, most times, that person you hate is really pretty pitiful. You'd be much better off feeling pity for them. 
If you hate someone because they made a FOOL of you, then just admit you had a flaw in character too, live and learn and move on.

happy May.
with love.
Candy

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